Have you been trying to get out and date with not so favorable results? Does it seem that every time you put yourself out there, it blows up in your face? Or when you meet someone, they don’t live up to your expectations or you theirs? It can be so disheartening, ego bruising and a destruction to your confidence. Perhaps prerequisites for dating might help all of that.

So, what does that mean, prerequisites for dating? It isn’t rules or dating advice that you are going to get from a PUA or dating coach. This is something you have to develop yourself. I am sure you have heard the saying, “Life is what you make it.” Well, this is about your outlook, attitude and expectations.

Negative Outlook

If you are taking the approach of a date with negativity and doubts. Do you really think you will get positive results? You create your own karma, if you take a negative attitude with anything, the results will be bad.

If you approach a girl with the attitude that it is already doomed, it will be. We tend to program ourselves, even subconsciously. So, if you have convinced yourself that it isn’t going to work. Most likely it won’t, and this is with anything in life.

You can list a negative outlook and attitude on the “Don’t Do” section of your prerequisites for dating list.

The Past Should Be Left In The Past

I understand that many people have terrible and horrible back story. It is terrible that we all have to go through “lessons-learned” in life. But it is life, that is just part of it, to learn from your mistakes.

Don’t make another mistake by sounding like an old country song. “You lost your girl, car, dog and house.” I can tell you; your date isn’t going to try to play you backwards. You know, so you can get it all back.

So many of us, just can’t let go of the past, especially if it was something bad. But remember, as long as you hold onto the past, it holds on to you. Don’t let someone or something of the past, maintain power over you. Let’s say a girl did you wrong in your past relationship. Don’t cheat yourself out of a great future with someone else because that happened. That is just letting the person that did you wrong, still have control over you.

When you bring your past to the table when meeting someone, that is baggage. People tend to stay away from people with baggage. It is best to leave the past in the past and just move forward.

Your Comfort Zone

We all have our day-to-day routines, and over time, it becomes a rut. At some point, this repetition becomes your comfort zone. When you think about going out on a date, your thoughts may tend to think too far ahead. You end up spooking yourself because you see your entire life changing. The thought of being pulled out of your comfort zone can threaten your existence.

Most people don’t really grasp the concept of risk. Inside your comfort zone, you are safe, nothing to threaten change. So, you are now forced with a decision. You can stay safe and be alone. Or take a little risk and hopefully find true love.

There is always going to be some risk going after things you want. Taking risk will pull you out of your safe little comfort zone. So, before you add this to your list of prerequisites to date. You need to decide what it is you really want out of life.

What Do You Really Want?

You are the only one that can answer this question. No one else can tell you what is best for you or what you need. In the end, you are the one that has to live with your decisions, not someone else. Do you really want to date? This would be the very first checkbox to mark for your prerequisites to date list.

If you feel you can be content and happy being alone, don’t let anyone else push you into it. However, if you really want to love and have someone, then understand your part. Your part is committing to going after what you want.

Too many people think they know what they want, when they don’t. All this does is confuse the person they are trying to date and themselves. So, really think hard on what you want before acting on it.

To Change or Improve Yourself?

First off, there is a difference in making changes and changing who you are. In order to make new friends and even meet someone. You may have to make some changes in your lifestyle. This only means, you are going to have make free time where you hadn’t in the past. Maybe keep your home a little cleaner for guest and such.

Maybe make some improvements. But none that you shouldn’t have already made for yourself to start with. There’s nothing wrong with improving on your life, everyone should do that anyway.

The one thing you should never do is change who you are. If you feel you have to be someone else to have friends or date. Then you are doing all of this, all wrong. There is nothing wrong with changing some bad habits. Just always be yourself, so others can like and love the real you.

There are courses, programs and of course eBooks out there to help on self-improvements. None of which will help you if you are not willing to make the improvement. You have to want to do it for yourself, not to impress others.

Market Yourself

The real truth about success at anything is “Marketing.” Also, you should always follow through with what you started. Mostly you think of marketing as sales, commercials and advertising. Even though this sounds crazy, this is what you need to learn to do for yourself.

The same if you were going to try to sell an old car. You would wash it, and tune it up. Generally, ensure it looks good and runs well, so it has more appeal. You didn’t change the car into something it isn’t. You just made all the good qualities stand out so people are more enticed.

This is what you will be doing with yourself. Naturally, you want to be groomed, clean and smell good. That’s just a given, or should be. For all the good qualities you have, those are things you should show. Don’t brag, don’t boast or be someone you aren’t. Just don’t hide your positive passions. Be the best you, that you can be.

Looks Aren’t Everything

Back to the car scenario from above. You may be selling a 1971 VW Bug. It is in great shape, paint is good, it is really a great car. However, not everyone is going to love a VW Bug.

The same applies to people. You may short, over-weight, skinny, or really tall. You may have a perfect symmetrical face and body. Then again, you may look like Buddy Hackett. Buddy may not be the most attractive looking, but I love him. He was funny and had one of the best personalities. Buddy was great because he was being himself.

Just take a little pride in yourself, have some dignity. Use a confident body language and know what you want. Don’t be apologetic and never feel like you are less than anyone else. Be a man, not a scared little boy. Make this a strong prerequisite for dating attribute.

Believe In What You’re Selling

In marketing, you have to believe in what you are selling 100%. If you don’t believe in what you are representing, no one else will either. You don’t want to be a con-man. There are those guys that can convince women that they are the dream guy she has always been looking for. So, she starts dating them, and eventually they show their true colors.

What this means, be yourself. But not only be yourself, believe in who you are. I know how tough it is to be the one cheering in your own corner. It is much better to have support from someone else that believes in you. However, no one will believe in you if you don’t in yourself.

You can’t come off needy, or present a fake confidence. Women can smell counterfeit confidence from a mile away. You can’t act like a date with a certain girl is going to make you or break you. Just believe in the man you are and be happy with it, don’t count on others to stroke your confidence.

Building Your Confidence

The very first thing you need to do to build your confidence is, get out of the past. No matter if it is your fault or someone else’s of past failings, that doesn’t matter. Always look to a better future. There is nothing wrong from learning from our mistakes, but don’t dwell on them.

Make a list of things you like and things you know how to do, or at least have knowledge of. If you don’t know how to do anything or know about anything, think about the things you like. Whenever you think about dating, think about the things you know or like. Think about things you want for your life in the future. Just keep positive thoughts, forget the negative ones.

Everyone is a “cog in the wheel”, meaning everyone matters. Even if someone else doesn’t see that in you, move on. There are billions of people in the world. Don’t bank your existence and confidence based on one person’s opinion.

One little trick that can help build confidences. Make a list of things you want to get done or accomplish. Go through the list and attack each one. Stay committed to these tasks and check them off as you go. You will start feeling accomplished and happy, seeing you are making a difference in your own life.

Prerequisites For Dating List

So, let’s go over your prerequisites for dating list. Not everyone like or appreciate checklist, but sometimes it helps us see and understand our progress…

• Do you really want to date, is this really what you want?
• Outlook, ensure it is a healthy and positive one.
• Leave the past in the past.
• Be ready to leave your comfort zone.
• Know what you really want and know who you are.
• Make self-improvements.
• Do not be someone that you are not, don’t be fake.
• Present the best part of who you are.
• Be happy with who you are, not what your attractive level is.
• Believe in yourself.
• Carry yourself with confidence

Don’t Be Afraid To Be Fun And Silly

There is nothing more than laughter that steals a girl’s heart. A guy being funny creates strong attraction with women. Now this doesn’t mean do a slap-stick comedy act or go by a joke book. Making people laugh, usually comes from you just being your silly self. Just don’t take it all so seriously.

One time while I was at the mall. Every time I saw a really pretty girl. I went right up to her and asked if she had a boyfriend. For those that said yes, I asked if they would like to trade in for the new and improved model. Those that said no, I asked if they would like to have one.

Now as crazy and silly as a thing like that sounds. I actually got three dates form just being silly. The point to my craziness is. Being bold enough, and letting go of my inhibitions allowed me to be someone that girls found different.

A lot of girls love musicians, and they don’t even have to be hot looking. Girls view musicians and or a guy that will come up and ask a bold question. To be men of confidence and women love men, not insecure little boys. Me going up to girls like I did, showed I didn’t care, I was just having fun. This shows a girl you are exciting.

Learn To Be A Badass

Now you may take being a badass as being a tough or adventuresome guy. Not true, you can be a badass by just being the best you, you can be. A total geeky nerd can be a badass at all his indifferent interest. How, he owns who he is, he doesn’t hide it. Why do you think you see many hot models have boyfriends that are nerd that love Dungeons & Dragons?

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