Here is a post from a guest writer with a question and need of advice. Please leave comments on what you feel might help her with her dilemma of being shy and not very outgoing.
Hi, I’m a woman, a few years from 30 and my “love life” thus far has been extremely minimal. I’ve always found it impossible to get the interest of men that I liked. Now I know what you’re going to say, that I went after “bad boys” or “suave guys”, but that’s honestly not the case.
I’ve always tried to be in the presence of guys that shared my interests (which can be pretty nerdy). After so many failed attempts, an increasingly complicated and confusing system of “courting” and rampant casual sex. I pretty much gave up on it. For at least 4 years now I never really ventured back into the dating scene.
Of course, deep down I want to experience a real, long-lasting relationship and marriage. But I’m practically a middle-schooler again when it comes to dating knowledge. Do you have any advice on what steps I should take to inch myself back into the dating world?
From A Man’s Point Of View
One thing I write more about and preach, is Confidence. Be confident in who you are, personally, I love women with a nerdy side. That to me is actually kind of cute and sexy, kind of like how cute some girls look wearing ball caps. You should not just take pride in who you are and the things you like, but own it. Never go around wearing your heart on your sleeve, men love women that smile. It’s OK to be shy and not very outgoing, the right man is going to love that about you.
In all honesty, don’t try to pick out only men that have similar interest. As nice as that would be, that doesn’t always work. Know the old saying, “opposites attract?” The reason that saying is so popular, is varied interest keeps the spark. If you and your mate liked all the same things, and said practically the same sentences all the time, life would get boring. Obviously if you love Bambi, you wouldn’t want to date a hunter. But don’t bank everything on meeting someone that is necessarily nerdy too.
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